Always know your right value just like Zero. If placed before a number it has no value, but when placed after a number it makes the number ten times greater.
– Fahim Lashkaria –
Many of us don’t know our right value. We also try to find it in the wrong places. Often, we value others so much that we forget our own value. This thing is very common among us and it is also the root cause of our unhappiness.
Feeling unhappy when someone doesn’t sacrifice little things for you and you have been doing it for them every time?
Getting hurt when you are the only one who has to adjust for things?
Always living life on other’s instructions and getting frustrated when you feel you have nothing of your own?
If your answer to this is no then you are on the right path but if it is yes then you need to learn this.
What is Your Value?
This all can be sorted easily when you know your value or know how to find your value. In every walk of life, you will need this skill.
In relationships, at work, family, acquaintances, etc you will have to see are where you stand in other’s life. You are the zero before the number or the zero after the number.
Many times they mean the world to you but you are not to them. You have to do things they like or else hide from them.
They want you to do things they want and not what you want or enjoy. In short, you live life on their terms, not yours.
Once you are able to know and solve this equation, you will be much more happy than you are now.
It doesn’t mean that they are of no worth but it just means to prioritize yourself. They should know the facts or emotions behind your choice.
Usually, we forget that the most painful thing is losing ourselves in the process and forgetting that we exist.
How To Find Your Right Value?
I was surfing on the internet and on my friend’s timeline came across this very interesting small story. It literally struct my senses. How simple and intelligently the story taught the lesson on how to find the right value.
This is the story of a father on his death bed and his son.
Lying on his death bed, the father gave a watch to his son and said, “This is a watch your grandfather gave and it is more than 200 years old.”
The conversation continues and father added, “Before I give you this watch permanently, I want you to go to the watchmaker at watch shop on the first street and tell him that you want to sell. Just ask him what value he will offers.”
The obedient son went to the watch shop and came back to his father and said, “The watchmaker offered $ 5 and said its too old.”
Again the father told his son to go to the coffee shop and try selling there. The son did as his father said. Again he returned with the same $5 offer.
The son wasn’t understanding what was happening and in curiosity asked his father what is it all about. The father said, “Yet, it is not the time.”
The father again said his son to go to the museum and ask for the offer. The son went and came back. But this time he was very happy to return home.
The father asked what happened. The son replied, ” They offered me a million dollars for this watch.”
The reply and explanation the father gave to his son were amazing. The father said to his son:
” I wanted to let you know that the right place values your value in the right way. Don’t put yourself in the wrong places or situations and then get angry with yourself. Who knows your value will always appreciate you, don’t stay in a place or situation that doesn’t suit you and always remember your worth.”
Some shits are self-created. The purpose here is to avoid this shit. You give someone the authority to hurt you and then complain. This is wrong.
We often ask for our value from the wrong people, do for wrong people, do in without having any limits and forget ourselves.
In the first place, it is our duty not to provide them with authority. The way you care or do for them they should also understand the same.
You must not live your life just for people’s acceptance otherwise we will be badly ruined with their rejections.
Pleasing others for their approval and acceptance might feel good in the short term, but eventually, you will lose yourself and feel resentful.
Please yourself first then give to others based on conscious choice and not for the desire for approval.
You as much as anybody in the entire universe deserves your love and affection.
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